24 Oct 07 - Marriage is a topic that is often discussed by "experts" in magazine columns, co-workers around the water cooler, and idle housewives at the market. Most hold strong views about the subject, and are usually quick to offer their opinions to others.
But like the proverbial blind men having their first feel of an elephant, most would only be able to contribute accurate descriptions of certain aspects. Without a clear overview of the subject, you will not be able to link up all components to form a thorough observation. And since marriage is an intensely personal topic that varies from couple to couple, you would unlikely be able to find universal truths that apply to everyone.
Marriage is more than 2 people coming together to live under the same shelter. Marriage is also more than just 2 people signing their names on the marriage certificate. Marriage is a melding of hearts.
As one half of a newly wed couple, I am hardly qualified to expound on this topic. But precisely because I'm fresh from the altar, I have a clear idea of the differences between single and married life.
When you get married, you make a conscious decision to live together with your spouse for the rest of your lives. You are no longer a lone island, but rather, a newly established kingdom. With the establishment of this kingdom, you need to communicate with your subjects in order to ensure its success. Communication is essential to ensure that there is a meeting of minds, and that even if you need to disagree with each other, you do so in a logical and cordial manner. Melding of hearts, remember?
Marriage is also about taking ownership of every single detail of your lives, from the type of mop used in the kitchen, to the boiling of water for drinking. You will have to understand not just how to take care of yourself, but also of your spouse and accompanying kids, if any.
In a nutshell, both parties must be willing to place extra effort to understand each other, and more importantly, take the time out just to enjoy each other's company.
But like the proverbial blind men having their first feel of an elephant, most would only be able to contribute accurate descriptions of certain aspects. Without a clear overview of the subject, you will not be able to link up all components to form a thorough observation. And since marriage is an intensely personal topic that varies from couple to couple, you would unlikely be able to find universal truths that apply to everyone.
Marriage is more than 2 people coming together to live under the same shelter. Marriage is also more than just 2 people signing their names on the marriage certificate. Marriage is a melding of hearts.
As one half of a newly wed couple, I am hardly qualified to expound on this topic. But precisely because I'm fresh from the altar, I have a clear idea of the differences between single and married life.
When you get married, you make a conscious decision to live together with your spouse for the rest of your lives. You are no longer a lone island, but rather, a newly established kingdom. With the establishment of this kingdom, you need to communicate with your subjects in order to ensure its success. Communication is essential to ensure that there is a meeting of minds, and that even if you need to disagree with each other, you do so in a logical and cordial manner. Melding of hearts, remember?
Marriage is also about taking ownership of every single detail of your lives, from the type of mop used in the kitchen, to the boiling of water for drinking. You will have to understand not just how to take care of yourself, but also of your spouse and accompanying kids, if any.
In a nutshell, both parties must be willing to place extra effort to understand each other, and more importantly, take the time out just to enjoy each other's company.
- Melvin
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